Broken takes many different forms. Broken can mean you experienced childhood trauma, come from a home people call broken, have lost someone you love, or have been through a divorce. For some people, broken is a diagnosis that makes them feel physically broken. For others, it is an addiction to drugs or alcohol. Even if you haven’t experienced any serious trauma, you’re not excluded from being broken. You are qualified if you have ever felt less than others, if you are in a bad relationship, or if you are lonely with no relationships at all. You qualify if your life has become a repeat of the day before, if you are stuck, if you want more out of life but don’t know what to do. Broken can sound like such a dirty word, but it is time to change that. Being broken is nothing to be ashamed of. We all have parts of ourselves that are broken, and everyone has the chance to change their path, even if they don’t have to completely start over. Some of us just need to get rid of one piece of our broken lives to let the rest of ourselves shine through. If you are in a boat and there is a small crack, the whole boat will sink. If you fix that one crack, you can continue your journey.
You can begin to find your own truth by answering the following questions and answering them honestly. Don’t put this on the shelf and tell yourself you don’t have time. Make time to sit down, take this seriously, and be thorough. Keep the answers private, so you don’t censor yourself. You don’t have to be afraid to tell the truth. Answering these questions might make you uncomfortable, but you are worth it. Now it is up to you!
Getting Honest with Yourself Exercise:
Write down answers to these questions. Your responses can be as short or long as you want, just make sure they’re honest:
- What do you struggle with most about yourself?
- What stresses you out?
- What have you given up on?
- What are you most embarrassed about?
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Life, at the very core, is truly what you make of it. You can find happiness where there used to be none, and you can find value in things you used to overlook. It is not just getting rid of those people, places, and things that bring you down. It is also about finding things that build you up. Remember, being broken allows you to rebuild, renew, and re-energize. You get a new set of twenty-four hours every day to start over. If you didn’t put a piece in the right place of your life puzzle, you get to remove it and put it somewhere else. Whatever it is, if it doesn’t bring you joy or make you happy, there is no reason to keep it around. If it doesn’t contribute to you living your best life, it is okay to let it go. That includes people, jobs, places, experiences, or a combination of them all. Let’s review three areas where you can spring clean your life.
Healthy-selfish is one of the most important concepts I can share. After struggling to fulfill commitments with work, family, friends, hobbies, housework, and everything else, you probably don’t have much left for yourself at the end of the day. If so, you have the power to change it and you are worth it. Healthy-selfish means putting yourself first, but in a healthy way. Just like in an airplane, when you are instructed to put your oxygen mask on first before helping the person next to you, it makes total sense. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be able to help a family member or child.
I know many people can relate to what it feels like to be stuck in the cycle of just existing. We all have the ability to change things in our lives, we just need to be willing to leap over our fear to the other side. We cannot control everything that happens in our world, but we can start to manage ourselves better. The way we look at things matters, how we treat others matters, and how we treat ourselves matters. I hope you have learned a thing or two by reading this book, but taking action will really start to change your life. You can get off the couch, you can stop complaining about the things you have the power to change, you can start to be genuine, you can become more grateful, you can stop apologizing for being yourself, and you can start today.